Keeping the family on schedule—and making certain everyone is fed, clothed, bathed, etc.—is no easy task, especially as children often have timetables, needs, and desires different from adults (and often from each other). Montessori believed that children, when given tasks appropriate to their abilities, delight in their accomplishments. Organize your home so children needn’t rely on adults for everything, and give them the time and the direction they need so they can become independent and successful in contributing to the family. You may find you don’t have to resort to
demands or reprimands.
- Acknowledge feelings first: “You’re cozy in your bed this morning.”
- Offer a choice: “Do you want to wear the red shirt or the green shirt?”
- Be playful: “If you were a magician, you would already be dressed!”
- Rather than reminding, describe what you see: “This table needs to be set.”
- Say it with information: Use a word or short description, rather than a nagging, repetitive demand: “Shoes, backpack…”
- Write a note: “I’m hungry” on the dog’s collar or “Hang me
up!” on the jacket.
- Take action without insulting: “Let’s clean up, put the paints away, and go outside.”